a day in your life

To Paul: This is how you spent the day you turned 17 months old.

I open the door to your room at 7:30, and you roll over and greet me with a smile. I lift you up and lay you on the changing table while you point and inquire about the features on the ceiling. “Staaa?” “Nuuu?”

Freshened and dressed, you’re not thrilled to be left while I attend to Annie, but make your peace. You’ve been keen to practice your stair-descent, so you hold my hand and the banister bars, and step your way down while I carry your sister. We hit the vitamin cabinet, then head for the car, where once again I’ve preloaded breakfast in your cupholder.

You dig past the toast and cheese for the orange slices and tuck in with appetite. I hear you munching for most of the car ride, and all the food is gone when I unbuckle you at school. We head in.


You become increasingly clingy as drop-off approaches—it’s your second week in the Sea Turtles, and you’re still adjusting. We cuddle for a moment as I catch up with Shanna, then I set you down in your little chair. Betrayed and abandoned, you scream, and follow it up with the long silence that means an even BIGGER, LOUDER scream is coming. The tsunami of your distress follows Annie and I down the hall.

When I pass the room on my way out, you are quiet and sucking your thumb in front of a second breakfast of apple slice and a biscuit. It’s a normal day at school: playground, a nap on your mat, circle time that you occasionally deign to join.

Fresh from California, Dad picks you up, and by 5:15, you’re all at home, cooking together. There is some contention about whether you or Annie will have the privilege of feeding Sous. Annie wins the honor, so Dad announces you will help give her water. Carrying a full pitcher is a little beyond your capability, however, so he helps, and Annie decides to as well. The three of you shuffle in a group, everyone with a hand on the pitcher, from the sink to Sous’ bowl, and back again.


I come home from my last-day-of-work celebration to find you getting ready for your bath. Annie is requesting a jungle belt, and no one is screaming at all. I think you’re excited to have your Dad back.

cropped for posterity
cropped for posterity

Annie persuades Dad to join you in the bath and washes his nose with a sponge while you try on your bath hat. All are scrubbed, rinsed, and dried.

In a fresh diaper, you make a beeline for Goodnight Moon, which we’ve rediscovered after a long hiatus. We read it a few times, and you drag it into our bedroom, where Annie and Dad are folding clothes and watching a few minutes of Totoro. TV can engage you for up to 90 seconds, and I seize the opportunity to trim your toe claws.

Not crazy about how I look in this picture, but I love your face.
Not crazy about how I look in this picture, but I love your face.

Before we know it, it’s 7:00. We read Goodnight Moon one last time, and Dad carries you to your crib, singing our lullaby. Goodnight, Paul.

a day in your life

To Annie: This is how you spent the day you turned 2 years and 9 months old.

Dad left last night for a work trip to California, so I get up early and arrange everything for a smooth-as-possible exit. (My strategy: minimize transitions.) You and Paul wake up slowly and peacefully, lying quietly in your cribs until I come in at 7:30. You stay snuggled in bed with your five stuffed friends while I get Paul changed and shod. When it’s your turn, you consent to the removal of your night diaper but not to putting on undies. “I want a diaper please,” you tell me in a soft and pitiful voice, so that’s what I put on you. Add too-short pants and pink socks, and we’re ready to go downstairs.

Paul wants to practice his stair-walking, so I carry you and hold his hand. We get into your shoes and coat, snag a chewable vitamin, and head for the door. You climb into the car and then your seat, and munch your way through the breakfast I pre-loaded into your cup holder: buttered toast, a slice of cheddar, and a handful of grapes.

You are not interested in smiling for the camera.
You are not interested in smiling for the camera.

You’re full of questions and information on the drive. “I see a A!” you announce when stop behind a Lagunitas truck at a light. “TWO As!” Later, you inform me that we’re getting off the highway and back on the access road, then that we’re turning across the highway to go to school. You have been asking a lot of detailed questions about our route in the last couple of months, and are proud to showcase your knowledge.

Parked, I unbuckle you, and you climb out of the car with only a brief detour to the front seat. You head straight for the sidewalk, walk happily inside, and wait patiently while we chat with Shanna in the Sea Turtles at Paul’s drop-off. He cries hard when we leave, and as we hold hands and walk downstairs, you say, “It made me sad when Paul cried.” It made me sad, too, I tell you.

In your class, you hug my ankles for a minute while I sign you in, but detach and go quietly to a second breakfast of more toast and canned pears. We wave goodbye.

Your big lesson at school today is on the five senses. With your class, you read I Hear A Pickle. Ms. Mary tells me that when she asks the class whether you can smell with your mouth, you volunteer, “No, we talk a lot with our mouths.” When asked what we do with ears, you say, “We listen at school.” Do you listen at home, too? she asks. “Yeah, we can.”

It’s Wednesday, and I am using date night to move out of my office. Shanna brings you and Paul home and feeds you dinner. At the table, you scoot your chair close to hers and pat her cheek. “It’s okay. It’s okay. Your cheek is very tired. I will make you feel better.”

You take a bath with Paul and air-dry to the tune of “Baby Shark” and “The Wheels on the Bus” on Shanna’s phone, then do a little solo book reading in the nook (still naked).

Shanna takes over reading That’s Not My Puppy and makes connections with you. “Remember when we saw lots of puppies today walking?” Annie: “Yeah!” “Does Sous have a collar?” Annie: “Um, yeah.” You ease into a diaper and clothes. Shanna tends to dress you in your pink, Hold Your Horses shirt; tonight is no different.


I rejoin you, carrying laundry. You help me shake out (vigorously), fold (-ish), and put away your clean clothes. Paul gets out his new sleeping tent—he’s very proud of it—and the two of you romp and squeal inside it for a few minutes. You take a quick Rabumpus ride and then play with the new owl purse Susu got you for Christmas. At 7, I start the lullaby, put Paul in his crib, and then scoop you up and lay you down with your friends. “I want Peter,” you specify, and are cuddling him as I turn off the lights.

“mom, you need some coffee”

I took Annie to the Thinkery on Sunday morning, and as we were about to get in the car to go home, she insisted that I needed some coffee. She escorted me into this beer store, which, this being Austin in 2018, was of course open and serving coffee at 10am.

my spirit guide
my spirit guide

She hauled herself into this chair, made polite conversation with me for a full five minutes while my coffee cooled, and then pushed her chair back in when it was time to go. Who is this child? The whole thing felt like a dream. I just went along for the ride.